Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our eighth anniversary. The day was perfect: we woke up and had breakfast out, which we rarely do. Our son (that’s him in one of the photos — he reeeeaelly wanted to be included and then was distracted by the sunset and as a result is out of focus) was out of school, so we took him to see Belle et Sébastien (that goes to the trailer) at the Portland International Film Festival. We went out that afternoon to our favorite pizza-and-beer spot, and came home to watch the most beauuuutiful sunset (and a little bit of Wildest India, because
our kid we’re all obsessed).
I don’t like to get all holy roller and preachy about love and life (at least not on my work site.. ;D), but I do want to say that I am so, so happy my husband and I are still married. We’ve been through many ups and many downs in our eight years, and we’re in an exceptionally happy place right now. As a wedding photographer I meet all kinds of couples, and I see couples who stick it out and make it work, and couples who try so hard and ultimately decide to respectfully part ways. I think either path — and all of those in between — are worthy of respect. I think a lot of people who have been married know that it’s hard to stay married sometimes. I definitely believe that sometimes, separation and divorce are the only healthy options left to two people who have tried so, so hard. I also definitely believe, if only because I have lived it, that so much light came come from a place that was once so, so dark and painful.
As for us, I’m happy we’re still here, rocking and rolling together. Anniversaries are cool, and I hope we get to celebrate many more together.